Hello lovely friends!
This idea of creating a blog post on my New Year’s Resolutions grew wings and flew to a much higher height than I originally planned. I thought I would share my list and explain each resolution with a short summary in hopes that I could maybe inspire all of you. Writing these thoughts down also allows me to hold myself accountable for my resolutions. As I typed, it quickly became apparent that this would need to turn into a series of posts.
This series encompasses resolutions that can apply to anyone, as they are open-ended in nature. They aren’t resolutions that can easily be given up like “stop drinking soda” or “exercise everyday.” These resolutions allow for failures and grace, success and celebration. I hope that this series helps you all in some way and inspires you to live a life where you let joy choose you!
For the next 10 weeks I will be posting the details of one of my resolutions! My first resolution is to be intentional. Intentionality is the word I chose to focus on in 2019 and is represented throughout the entire series.
Before you begin reading I encourage you to think about your WHY. Your why should be your guiding light in creating your resolutions.
I would love to hear what your WHY is and how you are going to be intentional in 2019 in the comments below!
By definition intentionality is the fact of being deliberate (google dictionary).
This year all my choices will be made deliberately.
Every day will matter, and everyday will have a purpose.
Do you ever wonder….
Where did the time go?
Where did my money go?
Did I spend enough meaningful time with my child today?
Did I spend quality time with my significant other today?
When is the last time I washed my hair?
Did I eat enough today?
Am I working hard enough to accomplish my goals?
Being intentional will lead me to be able to answer these questions everyday.
Intentionality will look different from person to person because it is about being purposeful with the things that matter to YOU.
You want to reflect on each day and be proud of the choices you made and if you are not proud of those choices, give yourself grace, and be intentional in deciding how to fix those choices the next day.
“Guard your time fiercely. Be generous with it. But be intentional about it.” –David Duchemin
I absolutely love this quote and it will lead me through my path of intentionality. Time is precious; don’t allow others to be in charge of YOUR time. Guard it. Protect it. Own it. Plan it. Use it wisely, and don’t waste it away. If you have extra time, pour it into others. Make good choices with your time. Choices that bring YOU joy. Choices that bring others joy. Choices that help you reach your goals. Think before you decide what you do with your time.
Pour time into your children everyday. Pour time into your husband everyday. Pour time into YOU everyday. Pour time into others everyday.
Although children need a lot of independent play, make sure to carve out a few hours everyday to spend quality together time- No Screens, no phones, just playing either with toys or at the park, going for a walk or a special outing. That intentional time will give you peace when you reflect on the day.
Make sure to also have intentional time for your husband. Plan to get up every morning to make him lunch and have breakfast with him (or as a family.) Plan sometime at night after the kids go to bed for just you and him to talk or play a board game like the good ol’ dating days.
Be intentional about time for yourself as well, you may need to ask your significant other to remind you to do this. It could be reading a book, aimlessly scrolling through social media, taking a bath, going for a run whatever you need to do to heal from the craziness of the day.
Point is follow the timeless saying… “use your time wisely.”
“A budget is telling your money where to go, instead of wondering where it went.” – Dave Ramsey
My pop-pop use to say, “sometimes you eat the chicken, and sometimes you eat the feathers.” Throughout our marriage my husband and I have been through many seasons of life financially and have had our fair share of eating the feathers. “Feather eating” as I will call it is often a result of not being intentional with our money when we do have it- looking back and having no clue where the money went. This year WILL be different.
Have a plan and know where every penny of your money goes (except maybe the pennies you lose in the wash.) If an item does not have a purpose (that purpose can be it brings you joy) then don’t purchase it. Try not to wonder around a store and purchase little items that look fun but wind up just creating clutter.
Our groceries will have a plan, our expenses will have a plan and we will have a savings plan that is all made purposefully.
Just always know where your money goes. You will be MUCH less stressed and be on the road to financial freedom
“Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work.” –C.S Lewis
Working Mama’s, Stay at Home Mama’s and Work from home Mama’s all have an abundance of important jobs. Loving on our babies is number one but there is also laundry to do, dishes to wash, bathrooms to disinfect, rooms to tidy, and food to make. Not to mention diapers to change, baths to give, our actual jobs to do, taking care of our husbands and what about washing our own hair.
Be intentional with the time spent on your to do list, so you can be intentional with the time spent on your most important job, your children. And be intentional with the time you spend with your children so you can be intentional with the time you spend on the work that you must get done, your to do list.
Some ways you can be intentional with your children are:
Listening. Even when they don’t know words yet they still need to be heard.
Turning off technology. It is harmful to their development and independence.
Following routines. Children thrive when routines are in place.
Sitting on the floor. They love it, and you will too.
Understanding. Be patient, its scary when things are new.
Being an example. Children learn primarily through observation.
Getting out in Nature. Get outside, they need fresh air and so do you.
Next up in the Resolutions series is: Be consistent
Always remember to allow joy to choose you!